A friend of mine is currently in a situation that I’m sure some of us can relate to and possibly after she reads this post we might be able to shed some light on it for her. She is a strong, independent, beautiful woman who knows what she wants and for the most part refuses to settle, hence the reason she is in this jam. Like all of us out there, she isn’t getting any younger. Settling down with someone she can spend the rest of her life with is up there on her to-do list. After a few years of dating, she has, I would assume figured out what it is she wants in a man. Good character, strong morals, ability to provide for her,someone loving, honest and most importantly someone who will respect her and treat her the way she deserves. Lucky for her, she has found this potential life partner; the only problem is she isn’t physically attracted to him!
Like most of us women out there, she has a mental checklist of the things she is looking for in her potential husband and this guy has met most of those requirements. He passes the test in terms of character and personality but unfortunately the poor guy is failing in the looks department. Now I’ve seen this guy and he is not bad looking at all. Not Matthew Mcconaughey but not Marilyn Manson either! But beauty is in the eye of the beholder and she is the one that has to live with him not me, so my opinion does not count.
So here is her dilemma, she has found a guy who will bring her the moon and the stars on a platinum platter if she asks. Her family loves him and she knows a future with him would be secure. They are compatible in many aspects of life including culture, upbringing and religion and they have great a friendship that has immense possibilities to grow into something deeper. Despite all this, when she looks at him, her heart doesn’t skip a beat, when he holds her hand, she doesn’t feel the tingles and when he smiles at her she doesn’t melt. What does she do in this situation? Will the attraction grow in time as long as there is chemistry? Or do you have to have attraction first in order for there to be chemistry? Does she take the risk and hope that he will grow on her or is being attracted to a person something that you just can’t fake? It’s either there or it isn’t!
What do you think? Is physical attraction that important in selecting a partner? What do you do when you have found an amazing person that will do anything to make you happy, but you’re just not attracted to him?